A child who has lived in one home with both parents all their life will likely feel very uncertain if they learn their parents are splitting up. They may have concerns about how life will change if they have to live between two homes.
Some children may feel very scared about the future. They may worry that one parent isn’t going to be there for them, that their parents may fight a lot or that they won’t be able to do the things they love. As a parent, it’s your job to help quell those fears.
Work as a parenting team
If your child sees that both parents are working together, they may feel a bit more stable. They likely won’t worry as much about whether they’ll have their parents there for big events. Starting off as a parenting team may also make conflict resolution and negotiations a bit easier.
Help them feel at home
A child who has to pack a bag each time they change homes may feel as though they’re a visitor in both homes. Instead, be sure that your children have clothing and other items they need at both homes. Ideally, they won’t have to bring anything back and forth. Sometimes, school supplies, electronics, medicines and sports equipment may have to travel with the child. Try to keep these items minimal so they don’t have to worry about forgetting anything.
Child custody matters often seem like they pit one parent against the other. It’s often possible to work out parenting plans through collaborative methods. This enables both parents to do what they feel is best for their children.